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Anxiety Therapy
in Milwaukee, WI and Online
calm,
Embrace
ease
anxiety.
You are
constantly
overwhelmed and worrying.
Do any of these sound familiar?
When an event is coming up, you worry about every detail (e.g., What should I wear? What if I’m late?) and whether people will judge you.
This makes it hard to have fun.
When you have to make a decision, you go back and forth between options and can’t move forward unless you figure out the perfect one.
You might call yourself an “overthinker.”
You feel like anxiety is stopping you from doing things you want to do like trying a new activity, making new friends, or going somewhere new.
It doesn’t feel like it will ever get easier.
You feel restless, you get stomach aches, and it’s hard to fall asleep at night because your thoughts won’t turn off and your to-do list is constantly on your mind.
You are exhausted, but it is hard to relax.
You've realized anxiety has impacted
area of your life.
every
Physically
You feel drained, your muscles are tense, you have frequent tension headaches, or you just don’t feel “well.” Maybe you notice a quick heart beat, a stomach ache, or jaw pain. These sensations are uncomfortable and can be distracting or all-consuming.
leader
YOU are the
of your life, not
anxiety.
It may seem impossible, but life could look like:
Physically
You will feel less tense. It will be easier to relax and you will have more energy day-to-day.
happen,
To make this
we:
Focus on Collaboration and Connection
Talking about anxiety can be difficult and overwhelming. Or maybe you’ve never talked to anyone about your anxiety and it feels embarrassing.
To make it easier for you to share and be yourself in therapy, I strive to build a connection so you feel comfortable in and trusting of our relationship.
To do this, I believe you know yourself the best and what works for you, and I partner with you using my knowledge about anxiety, the brain, and coping strategies to help get you where you want to go.
Use Our Time to Practice Skills
In-the-Moment
There are many tools you can add to your toolbox to help manage anxiety.
We will work together to identify tools that will be helpful to you, practice them in session, and make tweaks to ensure they are as helpful as possible.
Some of these strategies may include breathing exercises to calm your nervous system, grounding exercises to stay in the present moment, and thinking exercises to gain a new perspective.
Consider and Incorporate Context, Culture, and Systems
We don’t usually have anxiety for no reason. In our work together, we will strive to understand where your anxiety has come from and why.
Maybe you had a parent who was anxious and they passed these habits down to you. Maybe you are discriminated against due to your identities, so anxiety has helped you feel safe. Or maybe achievement is important in your culture and the pressure to succeed has led to anxiety.
Whatever factors have contributed, we will consider how these impact you day-to-day.
Start With Your Existing Strengths and Identify New Ones
It can be hard to admit, but there are some ways anxiety has helped you.
Maybe it has helped you achieve in school or work. Maybe it has made you a better friend because you are thinking about others’ needs.
Regardless of how anxiety has helped you, we will use this idea as well as other strengths you have to help you take the parts of anxiety that serve you and find other strategies when it doesn’t.
anxiety
Therapy for
can help you go:
From | To |
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Self-Judgment | Self-Kindness |
Hopeless | Reassured |
Avoidant | Open |
Uncomfortable | Relaxed |
Confused | Clear |
Restless | Calm |
More
benefits
include:
Relax into your body and sleep better
Make better decisions with less stress
Feel more connected to those around you
Learn effective coping strategies
Meet your goals at work or school
Find inner peace and emotional balance
expertise:
Additional areas of
There are some difficulties I have expertise in that are nested within anxiety therapy.
Social Anxiety
Social anxiety occurs when worries are predominantly focused on social situations and what others think of you. Through anxiety therapy, you can feel calm in social situations and enjoy spending time with loved ones without overthinking or trying to be someone else.
Perfectionism
Anxiety often goes hand-in-hand with perfectionism because when your standards are too high, you may worry about failure or not being good enough. Anxiety therapy can help you better understand your perfectionism, set more realistic expectations for yourself, and be kinder to yourself.
Performance Anxiety
You want to perform when it counts, but anxiety gets in the way. As a sport psychologist, I can help you manage this anxiety so you can find success on the court, in the boardroom, or on a stage. See my Peak Performance Therapy page for more information.
Frequently asked
questions:
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How do I know if I have anxiety?Everyone has anxiety from time to time. However, an anxiety-related diagnosis generally involves a lot of worry that impacts your life. While you don’t need a formal anxiety disorder to benefit from anxiety therapy, we can work on identifying a formal diagnosis if this is helpful for you.
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What is the difference between stress and anxiety?It can be hard to know the difference between stress and anxiety. Stress is often isolated to a particular trigger and does not last as long, while anxiety can be focused on many things and be longer-lasting. However, there can be a negative impact from both stress and anxiety when experienced long-term. Regardless of whether you are experiencing stress or anxiety, anxiety therapy can help!
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How often will we meet?We can meet every week or every other week. During our first session, we will discuss a schedule that works best for you. As you find relief from your anxiety, we can reduce session frequency as needed.
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What will we do in session?Every session is focused on what will be most helpful for you. I strive to make conversations casual and connecting. We may discuss how things have been since our last meeting, situations in which you felt anxious, or strategies to manage your anxiety.
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Will anxiety therapy involve medication?While medication may be recommended in some cases, anxiety therapy primarily focuses on non-medication-based approaches. I will work with you to develop a comprehensive treatment plan that may include therapy techniques, lifestyle modifications, and, if necessary, collaboration with a psychiatric medication provider for medication management.
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How do we get started?You’ll start by filling out my Introduction Form. Then, we can have a free 15-minute meeting to make sure it is a good fit if you would like. From there, we will have our first session, which lasts 75 minutes so we can get to know each other and develop a plan to help you meet your goals.